God Made a Mother

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I wanted to make a short post today in honor of all the Mothers out there on this Mother’s Day. I know personally mi madre has been one of the biggest and best influences in my life. I know most feel this way about their own mothers, but maybe that is what makes moms so great.

I don’t often talk religion, but to truly understand mothers you have to start with where they came from. Genesis 2: 20-24 “…but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept; and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof. And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones…

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Enemies, Foreign and Domestic

Enemies Foreign and Domestic

 

“That I will support and defend the Constitution of the United States of America against all enemies, foreign and domestic.” You may be familiar with this phrase, part of an oath taken to defend this country or to become a citizen. Now full disclosure I do not think the current Trump administration will do anything remotely close to waging a full scale war on our citizens or try to take away freedoms. However, there is some pause when I say that. Recent events are showing that President Trump may not care all that much about the Constitution, or really is treating his election as president as a vanity exercise. I’ll explain in this piece so please continue to read. I will also point out many flawed theories of typically right-leaning conspiracy theorists that really make no sense, at least to me anyway. Let’s proceed.

Re-read that opening again, all enemies foreign and domestic; what is the biggest threat to our nation? Climate change, Islamic terrorist, China, North Korea, Russia, a lack of water, or could the biggest threat be a domestic problem? I don’t have the answer, I’m sorry. If I did I would probably being paid to write my opinions at a think tank for significantly more than I make at my current profession. The truth is though, that I see many people saying we are heading toward another Civil War or the media is trying to ignite race riots, etc. Now I will give those people some credence, the media is definitely not helping matters. Do you think they want to see this country engulf itself in an internal struggle? I don’t think they do; they need us to watch them so they can make money in advertisements. If we are too busy killing each other off, I doubt we will be watching Bill O’Reilly or Rachel Maddow. Needless to say there is a huge divide between our citizenry that is only getting worse. I hate to be the one to tell any Trump supporter this, but he is not going to be a unifier. At least he hasn’t shown that to me yet.

Let’s start with some opinions that have truly blown my mind. Trump supporters calling out anti-Trumpers stating that no one really did anything but complain when Obama was elected. That’s a joke right? Now for the most part there weren’t massive protests or anything close to what we saw on Trump’s inauguration or the day after. I do remember many who said they would leave the country if he was re-elected, he was and those people are still here. Or can you explain to me one of the images I’ll load at the bottom of this article of American’s burning an Obama effigy hanging by a noose, in front of a church no less? I’ll wait. Your go to response will be, that was just a few crazy people. What about the millions who to this day still claim he wasn’t an American citizen? Or the same people who say he is Muslim? Literally millions of people still believe this. Even after one of Obama’s biggest critics, Glenn Beck, admitted the alt-right media had no evidence supporting those claims. But they made them anyway, and should be ashamed because it has set a new precedence of dishonest media reporting. Someone please explain it to me. I’ve been waiting 8 years for someone to give me something remotely close to factual evidence supporting those claims. I haven’t got it, and you know why? Because it doesn’t exist.

You are right, you all didn’t have protests for 8 years, you just lied for the same years to try and undermine Obama’s presidency. I will agree that these protest and ultra-liberals claiming Trump isn’t their president are a little much, but do not act innocent to the fact that Republicans didn’t have similar issues during Obama’s 8 years. There were protests though, or have we already forgotten the ‘Tea Party?’ There were many Tea Party rallies and protests across the country during the early part of Obama’s second term, how quickly we seem to forget. Could it be, because it doesn’t help your agenda? I would say that is a likely a reason. With that said, I don’t agree with either party the anti-Trumpers or Obama protesters. I do however support their right to protest, peacefully of course. It is a promised right to us in our Constitution. It was considered so important it was included in the very 1st Amendment,  ‘the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.’ It’s important for us to understand that although we may not agree with a group’s message, we have to respect their right to do so.

Now with pre-text out of the way, let me talk to you all about real domestic threats; last year the Bundy clan of Nevada and some of their supporters forcefully while armed took over a wildlife refuge in Oregon because they disagreed with the US government’s practice of land management. I am not saying they may not have valid points to their argument, but if you consider them anything less than domestic terrorists, I have to question your loyalty to our country. I think your loyalty resides more with your political party than your country if you agree with their methods. Close your eyes and imagine a group of liberals, who pack guns, forcefully taking over a school because it taught Intelligent Design/ Creationism as part of their science curriculum. These liberals with guns promise not to hurt anyone, but they want an agreement from the school board to quit teaching this in science, and to reinstate the fired science teacher who refused to teach Creationism. You are already probably loading your rifle and pistols to help the trained law enforcement officers to take down these Godless hippies right? My question is why? Look at the two examples, there isn’t much difference between the scenarios. The main difference is you half way support one group and not the other. That is subjective dissonance my friends, not objective reasoning.

During Obama’s eight years in office, I heard conspiracy theories nearly every other day; Jade Helm 15, Martial Law, FEMA internment camps, “false flags,” Newtown, Connecticut shooting staged, the list goes on. In my previous blog I pointed out the absurd thinking that the previous administration wanted to confiscate any law abiding citizen’s legally obtained guns. I am going to take this a step further in just a moment. In the event of Martial Law being declared, or the government tries to herd people into FEMA camps or confiscate guns, who do you think has to carry those orders out? The answer is either the US military or law enforcement agencies throughout the country. Now in my experience these people who I hold with the utmost respect tend to be about 75 – 90 percent Republican. I have no problem with that, but your worries about that happening under a Democratic president are unfounded. I don’t think the military or law enforcement would carry out anything close to that under a Democratic president.

A Republican president though? I think it’s possible. Here is why. President Trump recently stated, “If Chicago doesn’t fix the horrible ‘carnage’ going on, 228 shootings in 2017 with 42 killings (up 24% from 2016), I will send in the Feds!”  Low and behold now I see a large number of conservatives and Republicans who support the Federal government taking over local cities. I thought that was your biggest fear these past 8 years that Obama was going to come take your guns or declare Martial Law. Why the sudden change of heart? Just my opinion for those of you blindly following this President and treating every word he says as the gospel, is because you don’t want to admit you’re wrong. That or as I stated earlier your loyalty is stronger to your political party than the United States. I think it is fair for me to question that, because if you support that after claiming for the past 8 years you were against it, then either you are a hypocrite or I am right about your loyalty. You choose which one it is.

I have read both works of fiction and non-fiction written by right leaning authors that I have loved. Many have predicted or involved some sort of cataclysmic event that destroys America in some way. Almost every time it is either a plan by the right to “reset America” or a group of radical right-wing domestic terrorists. I say this because at times it seems the Republicans have brainwashed their members into believing they are the only party who really loves America, or are true patriots. People, there are many Democrats who love this country as much or more than you, quit buying into that message. In the same respect Democrats have brainwashed their members into believe they are the only party that has compassion, and that is dead wrong. Some of the most compassionate people I know are Republicans.

We have to quit hating each other, and unite. The problem isn’t the people; it’s the political parties and social elite who keep us fighting each other to blind us from the real issues. I do not hate the wealthy, but most people can see the issues out there by and large won’t change our day to day lives. Yet we are fed this day in and day out; we are right and they are wrong. Life isn’t black and white folks; we have to find common ground in the areas of gray.

In closing my personal opinion is simple. If we were to face a large domestic threat to our national interest it would come from the right. You can disagree, and that is ok. The right will disguise their intentions in the form of national security, patriotism, or fear. If you don’t believe me recall the Patriot Act, or Trump’s threat to Chicago or Trump’s executive order to ban all Muslim immigrants. I am not even going to say that some of those actions aren’t truly meant to help, but I can’t trust they 100% were meant to help either. In hindsight many Republicans said the Patriot Act was a Federal overreach, it created the Department of Homeland Security. American’s are supporting Trump and these actions like there isn’t any problem with them. At least when the Patriot Act was passed many debated if it went too far. Today though I see people saying send in the National Guard to Chicago, and Muslims shouldn’t be allowed in our country right now. You’ve been lied to folks, and maybe you’ll see before it’s too late where the real domestic danger is. I’m not saying it will happen with Trump, but I fear one day our great United States will be taken down from the inside. Let’s come together and protect our nation against all enemies, foreign and domestic.

 

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Obama protesters, since many Republicans seem to have forgotten they existed,

Obama protesters, since many Republicans seem to have forgotten they existed.

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My Country Tis of Thee

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“My Country, Tis of Thee”

Fair warning the following entry is rather lengthy and is dedicated to politics in America. This is my first overtly political piece, which if you know me is nothing short of a miracle. I am very involved in wanting to better my country, city, region, and people. I also have many opinions when it comes to political ideologies, etc. Now with that said if you continue to read at some point you will probably whole heartedly disagree or be offended with some of my thoughts and opinions. And you know what? That is ok. Differing opinions are a great thing and are what makes our country work. No one person has all the answers therefore one political party definitely does not have all the answers. But I beg of you to please read this entry if you have any thoughts or opinions of political matters or issues facing our United States. Without further ado, “My Country, Tis of Thee.”

“My country, tis of thee,
Sweet land of liberty; of thee I sing;
Land where my fathers died,
Land of pilgrims’ pride,
From every mountainside let freedom ring!”

My fellow Americans, let’s have a talk. Actually let me rephrase we need to have a talk. Read that opening verse of “My Country, Tis of Thee” also commonly referred to as just “America.” Really read them. Are we proud right now? Are we letting freedom ring? I hope we’ll answer those questions and more tonight. Democrats, I get it you’re mad. You’re mad that the American electorate elected a man you cannot stand and think will destroy our country; I get it, I truly do. We will talk more about that later. Republicans, you are also mad. You are mad because protests occurred only 1 day after President Trump took office. You’re mad that people aren’t giving him a chance, ‘saying things like he’s not my president’, and debating how big of a crowd really showed up at his inauguration. Again, I understand your frustrations, I honestly do, and we will get there.

First though I want to talk to everyone; Republican, Democrat, Independent, Libertarian, Jew, Gentile, Muslim, Hindu, Atheist, Agnostic, anyone who calls this country home. Let’s all take a step back, breathe deep, and remain calm. We are letting our emotions override our brains and manners. We need to start using facts, rather than raw emotion. That’s not to say there isn’t a place for opinions or any emotion, but we need to learn how to measure those. We have to articulate those points without mockery, ridicule, and blame. That form of dialogue will not help us, our cause, or anything else. Notice I used the words we and our. I am as guilty as anyone else. What I haven’t done personally though is spread complete falsehoods or ‘alternative facts.’ I may share opinion but I will not blatantly spread fabrications and lies, just because they support my opinion. That is where I and many who may read this differ. It isn’t just one party or group of people, all groups are guilty. I am not going to point fingers and blame at any private citizen individuals or claim one group is worse than the other. I will however point out examples and those in the media or in positions of powers. Some of this will only be my opinion, and most people’s favorite comeback is, “opinions are like buttholes, everyone has one.” It is their favorite when their opinion and yours don’t agree. As I said at the beginning I like differing opinions, and hearing the other side out. I cannot and should not tolerate complete lies though. If you intentionally spread complete falsehoods it is no longer a matter of opinion, it is you being part of the problem. Let’s move forward now. Full disclosure I am mainly going to focus on the main 2 American political parties.

Democrats let’s start with you. I am a registered Democrat, and I hate to say it, but the party often makes me ashamed to be aligned with it. You all are wondering why you just got beat on the national stage. There are many reasons. One is your elitist attitude. I am sometimes guilty of this too, but I am truly appalled at the way you often treat conservatives and Republicans. Do not chastise someone who simply disagrees with your opinion. Do not look down on a people who simply want to work an honest day’s work for a decent wage to raise a family. I know many of you will say you don’t, and maybe you don’t but I have seen too many that have. There is nothing wrong with having a simple life. I agree education and being informed are great and silver bullets to many issues. That does not always require going to a university though. I have also too many times seen those Liberals/ Democrats who claim to be so tolerant completely ridicule someone else for having a different view or belief. Come on folks as long as they politely disagree, agree to disagree. Better yet, try to work to find some compromise. We cannot discount an entire people, and that’s what Democrats are doing. I would say the vast majority of Republicans are not racist, xenophobic, etc, but yet you have to throw it in their face that you think they are. And I get it, their candidate said many awful things, but everyone makes a decision for a variety of reasons. Take them on their issues, and work to find middle ground. That isn’t to say everyone is open to hearing opposing arguments, because we all know that isn’t the case, don’t waste your time on those folks.

It doesn’t stop there, while I agree the government should be there to help the people, we cannot have a people to be completely dependent on that same government. I agree that Healthcare should be attainable for all people, not just those who can afford it. I will hit with that later. I also am a huge supporter of the Affordable Care Act. To act like it is perfect or doesn’t need some changes is foolish. I actually work intimately with ACA, and though I claim to be no major expert on it, I have seen firsthand just how great it can help, but also where there are some unforgiveable gaps. Former President Obama even said if the Republicans came up with a truly better option he would support a full repeal and implementation of the new law. Now with that said I also agree with President Obama, that I find that to be highly unlikely.

The reason I am a Democrat is because I believe in freedom to live our lives how we see fit without the government telling me what to in my personal life, and also there are times where the government should step into save and help its citizens. I am not a Democrat to force my views on others if they disagree, or to totally disrespect the Office of the President. I did not agree with many policies George W. Bush put forth, but I respected the Office, and I respected him as a man. I truly feel anything he did he truly believed it was for the betterment of the American people. Needless to say I was also a big supporter of Barack Hussein Obama. That does not mean I agreed with every word or policy he had either. I was disgusted at the birther movement, and the complete disregard many in the “media” had to completely lie about his past. You cannot convince me he is not an American or that he is Muslim. Not that it would matter if he were Muslim, we do not have to take a religious litmus test to hold office, even the highest office in our country. The first amendment covers that with ‘Freedom of Religion’ which I also take to mean freedom from religion.

I say all this Democrats to get to my point. Donald Trump is YOUR 45th President. Whether you like it or not, he is in fact your president. Now I am not telling you to support his policies, but you have to respect the office or you are not better than the Republicans we railed against these past 8 years. When POTUS Trump tries to enact something you disagree with use your ‘Freedom of Speech’ to disagree. Disagree with humility, and the understanding that freedom of speech is a right, but also one that carries great responsibility. I know many of you do not like the man Donald Trump, and I can understand. You don’t agree with many of his policies, again I understand, but you need to give him a chance to actually govern, so you can have real issues to debate. I want to talk about 1 quickly. Saying ‘America First’ is not xenophobic in and of itself. He has said other things that can be debated. However, our government’s first priority has, is, and should always be to improve life here in the United States and the safety of its citizens. That’s not saying we will not help other countries or not accept immigrants. It simply means we need more focus on our country at home; I don’t how you can try and argue that.

With that, when you do discuss policies you do not agree with do not spread complete lies to help your point, it will only hurt it. Debate the issues, explain your side, and use facts to get your point across. I know what you’re thinking, why should we? Because we cannot succumb to tactics used by others of the past. We must raise the bar of the debate and conversation and take the high road. Eventually the hard work will show. In closing for now, let’s work to reach out to moderates and conservatives to find common ground. Most of your fellow democrats are nowhere near as liberal as the 10% of the party try to push the party platform. Let’s work to take our party back, and work with the right to find common sense compromises and solutions.

Now Republicans, you are probably smiling and maybe even agreeing with me, wanting me to come over to the Elephants. I have thought about that more than you realize, but now is when you are probably going to be offended. Where to start? Let’s go with calling any Democrat a “Libtard” or every millennial a “snowflake.” I have never met a single person who needed a “safe space.” I think the media wants to help perpetuate the myth there is a large number of those people to help keep a division not just between political parties, but generations as well. Reach out and talk to the individuals, and you may find out millennials and democrats are nowhere near who you thought they were. Most people if you were to talk to me especially about my personal beliefs would think I’m a Republican and I’m not. Many Democrats share your values and beliefs trust me.

Here is where we start to differ, although I share your typically “Christian” beliefs personally, we cannot force or legislate our religion on anyone else. Before you try to come back with we were founded as a “Christian Nation” and should justly legislate that way. Let me ask you a few questions. Why did most people come here to the “New World?” The answer is to escape religious persecution whether it was the Catholic Church or the Church of England, or whatever it was to worship without fear of reprisal from the government. In those documents you claim to know so well and live by, the Declaration of Independence and the US Constitution, our Founding Fathers could have declared a National Religion. You know what they didn’t do? Ever ask yourself why? I have some theories, some claim many were Deists. If you are unfamiliar with Deism it means they believed in God, but thought He was hands off for pretty much everything. Meaning they should let the law of the land dictate how we should govern. In addition let’s say most had some forbearing of our modern denominations. Which would be the official religion? I’ve seen Christians who ultimately agree for most of their religion but would nearly come to blows over small differences in interpretations. Furthermore, I see so many of you rightfully support the Nation of Israel and ‘God’s Chosen People’ the people of the Jewish faith. Would you support them practicing their religion and faith in your “Christian” nation? It’s a valid question, because although there are similarities and even agreements between the 2 faiths, they are clearly not one in the same. Next faith based question, how do you think theocracies have worked throughout history? Theocracy is a nation that is ruled by a national religion, for those of you unfamiliar. It helped bring an end to the British Empire, the Roman Empire, and how do you feel about living in Saudi Arabia, Iran, or Afghanistan before the American invasion?

Moving on, let’s talk about your often utter disregard for the truth. If during President Obama’s 8 years you bought into stories from infowars or Breibart news you honestly need to reevaluate where you get your information. I will even let you all keep Fox News, but please understand there is plenty of videos where even Fox offered completely false information to make you believe President Obama wasn’t an American citizen or a Muslim of which he is neither. Very few people will go to a Christian church for over 20 years to disguise they are Muslim, think about that. If he was so dedicated to the Islamic faith do you think he could stand to go to a Christian church that long? Could you as a Christian sit through 1 Islamic service at a Mosque? If your answer is no, then why do you think he did, and for that long?

If you shared ‘stories’ that talked about ‘false flags’ again use some common logic. It baffles me that you will almost come to blows to anyone who says 9/11 was a conspiracy, but the murder of over 20 innocent children by a psychopath in Newton, Connecticut was some mass government conspiracy to take your guns. What kind of logic is that? Here’s the thing, I’m with you, I’ve nearly come to blows with family members who try to say crazy theories about 9/11. At the same time I have nearly lost my mind at people who said over 20 children weren’t murdered in that town. Go tell their parents. No “crisis actors” were ever hired, those children were murdered, and to try to argue otherwise is completely evil and sick. Let’s keep talking, I saw people sharing ‘stories’ after the Boston Marathon bombing claiming some of the victims were the same as the Newton parents or Aurora, Colorado movie shooting. Are you even remotely sane to buy into that? People use your brains just a little. It could be disproven in about 1.2 seconds. Again why do you only believe conspiracies if they benefit or share your opinion? It is truly frightening the amount of intelligent people who believed these things. One more, what about that mass government plan to invade the south and set up FEMA camps, Jade Helm 15, remember? Yeah, it was a large training exercise for the military you claim to fully support.

If anyone truly listened to President Obama and his stance on guns; he did not want to take any guns people already had unless they were obtained illegally. However, he did want to restrict future purchases on certain type of guns. If you disagree with that, that is fine and your right, but he never had any intention on gun confiscation. You may also want to re-read the text of the 2nd amendment again. You are probably about to say, “the right of the people to keep and bear arms, shall not be infringed.” Here is the full text of the 2nd Amendment, “A well regulated Militia, being necessary to the security of a Free State, the right of the people to keep and bear Arms, shall not be infringed.” Please explain to me the first phrase, “A well regulated militia.” When was the last time you went to muster in town square to demonstrate your knowledge and proficiency in the use of weapons? To me, again a supporter of your and my rights to bear arms, I believe there is a case that some restrictions can be placed on firearms. You may disagree and that is ok, but don’t always just quote that second half of the amendment look it as a whole. You may change your mind, or you may not, it’s just something to truly think about.

We are really just scratching the service, but we probably need to wrap up soon, so let’s move on. Let’s talk about the birther and Muslim movement again briefly. I will concede part of that was started by Hilary Clinton, however the Republicans and Fox News did not stop for 8 years, even many people still believe that to this day. Although many personalities will tell you now, they never believed that. See Glenn Beck, who was one of his biggest critics, said the right slant media went too far and should be ashamed for spreading lies. You can disagree with Obama’s policies that is fine, but you cannot deny that he was President. If you ever claimed he wasn’t American or was a Muslim and therefore wasn’t a legitimate president and ergo was “not your president” what right do you have to tell anti-Trumpers that Trump is their president and to get over it? Again think about that carefully. I am actually on your side remember, Trump is my president, even though I don’t agree with the man. You have to really think about this folks, you have brought a lot of this backlash on your own party and candidate who is now President. I have also seen so many say they were glad to hear God mentioned in Donald Trump’s speech. Great, did you ever listen to any of Obama’s? I’m guessing probably not, President Obama referenced God and scripture often. Let’s be fair and honest folks.

Let’s talk about POTUS Trump for a few moments. Folks the picture of the inauguration was proven to be taken at similar times and the crowd did appear to be smaller. You know what? I would expect it to be, Obama being sworn in was a major symbolic moment in our history, the first Black President. Here is my problem; I couldn’t care less who’s had a bigger crowd. The media again making a story out of nothing, but guess who cared President Trump. So much so he sent his Press Secretary out to address the media and flat out lie. In addition the next day while giving a speech in front of 157 stars that represent CIA operatives, who paid the ultimate sacrifice for our country, he rambled about it for no reason for nearly 2 minutes. Then Sunday he sent Kelly Conway a top aide on “Meet the Press” to talk about “alternative facts.” Stop just for a moment, and pretend Obama was still president and sent one of his aides to the media and started talking about “alternative facts” you would lose your mind and don’t tell me otherwise. It didn’t stop though, no sadly it didn’t. Monday while addressing a congressional delegation he made claims that literally no one can verify or even supports that due to “millions of illegal” votes and “vast voter fraud” that is the reason he lost the popular vote. Now Trump is going to waste taxpayer money for a complete investigation into voter fraud that occurred during the presidential election. Now wait, no one knows where he is getting this information, and so far no other politician or credible media source is reporting it. If he has something that can substantiate that claim, I get it. I don’t think he does though. I believe it is a complete vanity exercise to try and win the popular vote, and for no reason. POTUS Trump you won the Electoral College, and 32 states I believe, you are this country’s President. Who cares if you lost the popular vote, you are now President. Let’s do what president’s are supposed to do and start governing. You cannot worry about everyone liking you, nearly half the country isn’t going to like you anyway because you aren’t from their political party. Do your job, govern, and try to win them over with your policies, that you claim will help the American people.

Let me stop here to say, I hope President Trump is our most successful president of all time, and our country does nothing but flourish under his administration. Anyone who would wish otherwise is foolish, because they are only asking ill will on themselves and all they hold dear. Blindly supporting the president is not very American though, we are to voice our disagreements and concerns. Republican voiced their concerns the past 8 years if I’m not mistaken, so don’t expect Democrats to just “shut up” and deal with it. That is their right. Now with that said, I think protesting on Trump’s first full day in office is a little crazy and I in no way support the rioting; you have to realize though the rioters were a small fraction of people there, who were probably just looking for an excuse to act stupidly. Most of the protesters were peaceful, and although vulgar, often were not doing anything that was overly frowned upon.

I also want to talk about the ACA with you all for a moment or ‘Obamacare’ as you all often call it, and so did President Obama so it is what it is. The ACA did some amazingly wonderful acts. Allowed people with pre-existing conditions to get coverage, often for the first time; allowed Medicare to lower drug cost for Medicare beneficiaries by eliminating the Part D’s, or outpatient prescription drug benefit, coverage gap also known as the donut hole. Don’t know what that was/is I suggest reading up on it; it will probably blow your mind how they could do that originally. Now that isn’t saying the law is perfect, because it isn’t, but my point is there are great things it needs to keep in place. Maybe the Republican congress can get a better plan out there, I hope they do. We cannot repeal it without a replacement. For those of you saying insurance isn’t something Americans are entitled to, I agree and disagree. I do not believe insurance itself should be a promise but the ability to have healthcare and affordably I truly believe is. It even says so in the Declaration of Independence. “We hold these truths to be sacred & undeniable; that all men are created equal & independent, that from that equal creation they derive rights inherent & inalienable, among which are the preservation of life, & liberty, & the pursuit of happiness.” That was Thomas Jefferson’s original draft. This is what actually made it to the Declaration, “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, and they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness.” Read Jefferson’s original words, “the preservation of life.” How else can one preserve life if not through healthcare? Should someone have to live the rest of their life in poverty because they had cancer? Absolutely not, and I’m not saying it should be free. But folks it should be affordable. I think a public-option should be considered. We aren’t going to make you take the government’s insurance, but we will give you the option if you want it. We have the right to live; we have the right to liberty, and to pursue happiness.

In closing this is my message to Republicans. Win me over. I too value our Service men and women. My biggest regret is never serving in the armed forces, so I believe in strong military and supporting veterans. I believe in respecting the law and officers of the peace, but I am also aware they are people and make mistakes. I believe in fiscal responsibility and a need to balance the budget and reduce the national debt. I agree personally on almost all aspects of your social beliefs too. However, I do not think it is my place to force my ideas on anyone and it is definitely not the governments place to legislate it. Marriage is a religious institution, what the government recognizes is essentially a contract known a civil union in recognition of marriage. I don’t think you can deny 2 consenting adults that recognition. I do not think abortion is right, but I also don’t think you can flat outlaw it either. People know you can kill a fetus, and I would rather them go to a medical professional than some ‘doctor’ with a dirty knife or wire hangar endangering the mother’s life. Don’t buy into the late term abortion argument. 98 or 99% of abortions are performed before the 20th week. Again I am not advocating for abortion quite the opposite I’m just telling you why I have my beliefs. We should pray for those who make that decision, it is not our place to judge, that is between the individual and whoever their God is. Isn’t that really what the Republican party and Conservative movement is founded on, less government intrusion? Yet it seems many Republicans do not want the government out of things governments do, i.e. taxes, regulations on any business or industry, but does the want the government to dictate how people live their personal lives. That doesn’t add up folks.

In closing thank you for reading this extended piece. Sorry, if it seemed I was long winded at times, but this piece was more of a keeping my sanity by getting this off my chest exercise. I hope it at least makes you pause to reflect on our current state of affairs. I am not accusing the individual of anything I myself haven’t done, so please do not take this as a personal indictment. However, we as a nation and individuals need to understand what is happening, and find ways to work together. I’m from Kentucky and our state’s motto is “United we stand, divided we fall.” We will never all agree on everything, but we are in this world and in the country together. We have to work to find middle ground. Political polarization is killing our country and our love for one another. Let’s come together to work on common sense solutions and compromises. We have to have open dialogue and the ability to work together. If we don’t I am afraid that every 4 or 8 years we are going to just be undoing what the previous administration did, and never moving forward as a country. I encourage us all to discuss this, and feel free to leave your thoughts. Please be civil, and let’s talk to one another. May your God bless you, and May God forever bless the United States of America.

 

Sweet land of liberty; of thee I sing!

M. Coty Myers

 

 

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We All Need Someone There

I started this piece back in September, and took a leave from writing. I am back now, and figured this piece was as good as any to start back with. It is is partially inspired by the Wonder Years, but mainly from a conversation with a dear friend. My hope is to bring you new  content at least once a week. I would very much appreciate your feedback and suggestions for new pieces or improvement. Thank you everyone and Happy New Year!

 

We All Need Someone There

 

When discussing with a friend recently about a tough time her significant other was experiencing she said something I found so basic yet profound at the same time.  Before we get there a little context first; Her and the aforementioned significant other had a 2 to 3 hour phone call, but she said there was only maybe 20 to 30 minutes of actual talking, it was mainly just silence. Back to her thought that hit me hard, it was, “I guess we all just need somebody to be there sometimes.” That put this idea in my head about a month ago. Then in the past week I was watching some videos of ‘The Wonder Years’ cast in recent years giving interviews. (Side note if you read me regularly you know my love of the Wonder Years, if not read some of my older stuff.) Most of the clips had the 3 main characters, Kevin, Winnie, and Paul (Fred Savage, Danica McKellar, Josh Saviano) discussing their experiences of life and the show. One in particular was a town hall type interview in an auditorium. The host posed the question, “you all three were going through similar life events and struggles growing up off screen, did you lean on each other for support?” Fred Savage (Kevin) answered first, “I mean we were friends, and I’m sure we discussed those things. I think more than anything we were just there for each other just because we were there, and that brought me a lot of comfort.”

That lays the concept of my thoughts for this piece. Even though it seems so basic, isn’t it still profoundly basic and true that ultimately sometimes we all just need someone there, to honestly just be there. Whether it’s providing advice, being a shoulder to cry on, or just listening to someone express their frustrations, we all need someone there sometimes. People often look back to their past and think they don’t have friends like they did when they were children. I think we fail to realize the obligations of adult life. For those of us who have those close friends you see and talk to nearly every day, you need to realize the gift you have. For most of us I feel we don’t have that in our adult lives. It’s not a bad thing though, and it doesn’t mean we don’t have those close friends either. The realities of adulthood between full-time jobs, families, and other commitments limits the time we have to share with our friends. Because of these realities, I believe that is why so many become such great friends and close to co-workers, they are simply just there every day.

Getting back to the point of looking back to our youth as a measuring stick of our friendships, at these young ages we are thrown in with countless others, and we grow together. In school we are just simply there every day. That is why so often we look back and think we never have friends like the ones we had in our youth. However, if we pause for a minute and really take stock of our current friendships it isn’t about daily interaction, but the quality of the time we have with the ones closest to us. We all have those friends we don’t see for four or five years and for the couple of hours or days we do spend with them, it’s like no time has passed. That is how friendship works in our adult lives. Beyond that we still communicate with our friends whether it is daily or not, we know they are there for us when we need them.

I know I have friends that I haven’t seen in ages, but if I pick up a phone or send them a message they will be there ready to listen my problems. Sometimes that is all we need, just someone there. I know many of you out there, can probably handle your issues all your own, but for everyone there comes a point when we just need someone else. I hope to everyone who reads this, you have that person or people who you know will be there when you need them.

Even the strongest of us will go through times that will test the very fiber of our beings, and those times are made easier if we have someone who is there to share the load with us. Whether it is a spouse, sibling, friend, or whoever it may be it helps to have someone just be there for us. For those of you who think you can handle anything on your own, I envy you, and I used to consider myself in the same light. It is true each person goes through their own struggles; it isn’t ours to judge who has it worse. Obviously those who are dealing with extreme sickness or injury will probably feel they have a worse situation than someone who has lost a job, but that is the concept of what I am talking about. No one wants to face either issue alone, and no one should face these obstacles alone. From time to time we all need someone there, just so we know they are.

I’ll conclude with this, it doesn’t make any of us less of person to want to have someone there for us. We all need someone there from time to time even if it is only to hear us voice our frustration and pain. We shouldn’t fear that we are burdening someone with our problems, because we are all in this life together. Be there for someone people, you never know when just listening or the simplest of help may make a world of difference to someone who really needs it. You also never know, when you may need someone to be there for you. In the end I think we all want the best for everyone, and we can help each other achieve that. Let’s start helping and being there for each other, after all I think we all long to ultimately just have someone there or to share it with. What does it matter if we gain all the successes we can if we have no one to share it with? That my friends is what life is about human interaction, the experiences, the people, the emotions, not the material. I hope you all have someone to be there.

 

With Love

Coty Myers

 

The 3 main Wonder Years characters then and now.

The 3 main Wonder Years characters then and now.

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Perfectly Imperfect

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Perfectly Imperfect

What is perfect? Webster defines perfect in similar ways. 1) Having no mistakes or flaws. 2) Completely correct or accurate. or 3) Having all the qualities you want in a person, situation, etc. It is safe to say most would consider definition #1 as the most commonly thought of definition for perfect. Flawless is what I most commonly associate with perfect. When dealing with human relationships do we truly believe there will be no mistakes or that everything will be perfect? The short answer is a simple no.

Let us then take a look at the third definition: “having all the qualities you want in a person, situation, etc.” This is the basis for our “perfect” friend, significant other, co-worker, any person we interact with. Don’t let the label of perfect throw you off or make you try to live up to being flawless. We are all human, and we can only live our lives the best way we know how. That brings the real question, is anyone perfect? Think most rational people will tell you no, and I am in agreement that no individual person is perfect. Continuing that train of thought, that would in turn mean our relationships whether they be professional, platonic, or romantic will also not be perfect.

However, we often hear people say, “oh but he is perfect for you,” “she is perfect,” or “you are absolutely perfect.” Does this mean these people who say things like this have lost their common sense? No it doesn’t. When we tell someone they are perfect we are not implying the person is without flaw, it simply means that we decided we believe our friend, fiancé, spouse, whoever is everything we are looking for in that relationship even with their imperfections.

I think too often someone is told they are perfect by another and they then freeze up. The “perfect person” then manifests in their thoughts they will never live up to this expectation. Beyond that they also try to distance themselves from the person who thinks of them as perfect. If you are guilty of this, some advice, don’t run. The person who thinks you’re perfect for just who you are. You may hate the way you pronounce a word, but your person may find that one of your most endearing qualities. Maybe they know you always run late and just make it part of who you are and come to love that quirk about you. The things you may hate most about yourself the person who thinks you are perfect may love the most.

My next question for you my friends; is it fair to hold someone up to a higher standard or expectation because you think they are “perfect.” That answer isn’t so obvious. Like too many things in life it isn’t so black and white, but shades of gray. People will always let us down even those closest to us. However, nothing brings us more joy than those very same people. I have been guilty of ‘expecting’ too much of others in the past. At the same time all I truly ask for is honesty. When people try to avoid a situation or push something down the road, I cannot accept that. There is a precarious balance we must manage. We want those closest to us to be the best versions of themselves, but we can’t expect them to supply our entire world and happiness. As long as both people are communicating and supporting each other there isn’t much more we ask for. Yet we long for more, and expect someone else to be perfect and make up for our own imperfections. This is not fair, not at all.

If we are looking for someone who is “perfect”, we need to understand what that actually means in context of human relationships. Someone who is perfect for us, does not mean they our without fault, but rather they complete us. Together between the two people the imperfections each has balances out, and we find our perfect compliment. Maybe you are too structured and feel like you miss out on life, your perfect person may be one who completely blows off structure and gets you to be spontaneous. Between the two of you get to experience life, and they become a little more responsible making for a perfect balance. Maybe you in fact don’t even change each other, but just offer great compliments to each other, the thing about being perfect for someone, is that much like beauty it is in the eye of the beholder.

Like anything in life that we want or need, interpersonal relationships require effort and work. Nothing in life is going to be perfect, but it takes two people working toward a common goal to make a perfect relationship. It doesn’t even have to be a romantic one, it could be a perfect relationship between father and son, or co-workers, or friends. It won’t be easy, but remember there is a reason we want those people around, especially when we know they are perfect for us. We are entitled to make mistakes, but it is also our responsibility to learn and grow from those same mistakes. We will never be perfect, but we can work to be the best versions of ourselves. It is a constant work, learning and self-improving every day.

That also brings full circle to this concept of perfect. At the end of the day, someone out there is ready to embrace you for exactly who you are. It doesn’t mean you are a flawless person, but for that person or persons you are perfect exactly how you are. Embrace who you are, work every day to become improve and become a better person. If you don’t have your perfect person yet, they are out there just waiting for you. So continue being you; laugh that annoying life, smile at the most inappropriate times, be the grammar police, someone is looking for you just as you are. The thing we need to realize is we are exactly who we are meant to be. We may change through different events and times in our lives, but for better or worse this is who we are. Just because you feel you have given your all to others in the past, don’t let that hold your future back, be you with everything you have. It is the loss of those who couldn’t accept you as you are and you’re your fault. Let go and be your perfect you.

And I realize even for myself that I am perfectly imperfect just as I am, as we all should.

 

Dare to be perfect my friends,

M. Coty Myers

 

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…To Fail and a Reintroduction

“…To Fail and a reintroduction”

To fail conjures thoughts and emotions that would usually be negative. Even I cannot argue that point. What if I told you there are times when not failing is even worse than actually failing? You would probably ask me how that was possible or flatly not believe me. Let me explain this phenomenon by first focusing on the title of this, just the beginning. To fail, is only half a thought, the full thought is “too afraid to fail.”

Let’s take a moment to really think about that. Too afraid to fail.. Have you ever been so afraid to try anything that you didn’t even attempt to make it happen or give any real effort at all? If we do a pro-con analysis there would actually be a few pros for this. You never actually fail at anything and therefore never experience the disappointment and pain that failure brings. However, there are quite a few more cons than those 2 pros.

First you would never challenge yourself to see what you’re made of and what are truly capable of. Next even though you would never fail, would you ever really succeed at anything? By not doing or attempting anything you would achieve anything then where you are currently are. A few of you may be ok with this, but for the majority of us there are still milestones we want to achieve or new goals to meet.

Wayne Gretzky once said, “You miss 100 % of the shots don’t take.” That quote actually measures my opinion of not giving an effort very closely. We can continue with more cons. You would probably never have any self-improvement or change. You would probably never learn anything new both of yourself or general knowledge.

Some of the biggest lessons learned by the most successful of us have risen from the ashes of our failures. Michael Jordan was cut from his varsity basketball team his freshman year, a widely known story of the GOAT. Many authors were near broke or broke before their big breaks. There are countless stories of those that took years to achieve success and had to endure endless failures to finally find the sweet taste of success.

Our final con let me begin with a question for you. Can you truly enjoy the feelings and emotions of success if you never failed? If you have never experienced any hardship, sadness, failure, etc, I wish I were you. In all seriousness maybe you could experience the pure satisfaction of success, but I believe to truly appreciate and feel success you need to experience failure. Knowing what it is like at the bottom helps you realize just how hard it is to succeed and allows us to understand just how important it is for us to succeed.

Which brings us full circle to being too afraid to fail, after that analysis are you still going to play it safe on the sidelines or check into this game of life and go for broke? Am I telling you that you are going to succeed the first time or often even if you give it your all? Absolutely not. In reality you will probably fail more often then you will succeed. Then why even try? If no one tries there will be nothing. No new babies, no medical breakthroughs, no new music; nothing only what we have already, and that sounds like a terrible world to live in.

You see my friends as bad as failing is; there is a beautiful aspect to failing. Failing especially when you give your all, your whole heart will feel like death. But you know what? You didn’t die, you gave it all up only for it to not be enough, and you’re still rising. No I’m not even saying standing, sometimes it will knock you fully down, you may have to climb to even get back to your knees, and then work your way back up to stand and face the world again. Don’t forget though, you took it; you took the world’s best shot and got back up. Failing shows us exactly what we are made and just how resilient are bodies and souls can be. Failing allows us to become stronger and brace for the next fight. Eventually through all the bumps and bruises we will breakthrough and find our success.

I won’t lie to you it won’t be easy, and I am just as guilty as anyone, if not the most guilty of all. I have been too afraid to try in relationships, my professional life, friendships, hobbies, writing; name it I have been far too afraid to even try, or if I did “give an effort” it was in word only or I intentionally sabotaged myself. Whether it is waiting too long to tell someone how I feel or using my pursuit of perfection to hinder my writing, I have been the worst at not living life to its fullest. I am trying to fix this with myself, and I encourage all of you reading this to do the same. The first way to break out of my isolation and box I have put myself in, is by starting to write again. This piece is only 1 day short of a full year since my last post. I am going to do my best to produce more pieces and on a regular basis, I want you all to hold me accountable, and make me deliver.

That brings us to the second half of the title of this piece, “and a reintroduction.” In the famous words of Shawn Carter aka Jay-Z, “Allow me to re-introduce myself.” For those of you unfamiliar with me, I am Coty Myers, an aspiring writer. I have failed at even writing this post since it came to me two weeks ago. But in that failure I found the inspiration to begin again. I have several pieces that have been stuck in my head for nearly a year, and I intend to write them now. They won’t be perfect, they may even be downright awful, but that is thing about writing, you just have to write. I also have started work on my first book, “Confession of a Dying Twenty-Something.”

Progress on the book is slow, but I am hoping reviving this blog will allow my creativeness to begin flowing again. I ask you to please continue to support me, and pressure me to continue to produce pieces you enjoy reading, so feel free to provide me with subjects you’d like to see me write about. Enough self promoting, and back to this topic to wrap us up for now.

I am going to fail daily, but I am going to do my best to dust myself off and try again, in whatever it may be. I implore you to do the same. Failure is just a part of success, and we all need to give effort every day. I will leave you with someone who saw the deepest failures, but even higher success, Steve Jobs.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

 

Never be too afraid to try,

M. Coty Myers

 

A quote about failure from the GOAT, Michael Jordan.

A quote about failure from the GOAT, Michael Jordan.

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Be Your Own Light

Be Your Own Light

 

When I get in the mood to write, I will often solicit my friends for ideas. That’s the weird thing for me, I want to write often, but I just often can’t think of anything to write about. Well luckily my friend Dani saved me tonight. She said I should write about how amazing everything is. That when we see the stars at the end of the visible universe it’s light from the time of dinosaurs, from the beginning of time and how awesome is that? I should write about just how in awe we should all be in by the amazingness that that everything is. You know what? Dani was right. Often I write about subjects that could be taken as sad or problem oriented. Not that I will totally deviate from that, but we, and more than anyone, need to just simply be amazed by this beautiful LIFE we have been given.

Science does in fact tell us that light given off by the oldest stars are from thousands if not millions of years ago. In fact many of the stars we are visibly seeing, no longer exist, but we are still seeing the light they shined so many years ago. Let that sink in, something we all take for granted seeing stars at night have such powerful and lasting power that we see them even after they are dead and burned their last light. I have had always had a love affair with stars and space, not a torrid one, but a familiar one that I like to pick up now and then. Like most young boys there were times I wanted to be an astronaut. How amazing would it be to look down from space and see this planet that has given us all so many memories? I never put any serious thought into being an astronaut or trying to work for NASA as an adult, but there are nights while driving I simply pull over and admire the stars above me. Even if you aren’t religious you have to believe something great helped bring the universe into existence. There is just something breathtaking that lets you escape even if just for a second while your mind is dancing among the stars.

Can we not as individuals try to live our life like the stars? I’m not saying we all have to do memorable things the people of the world will remember for as long as there is history. However, can we not try to be a positive impact to not only others but ourselves? You hear all the time, I knew so and so’s great grandpa, good man. Others will remember and keep our legacies alive for generations. We should try and live a life that shines as bright as the stars we gaze upon. People tend to remember negative experiences and attitudes more frequently than the positive. What we should strive to do every day is be a positive light to everyone we encounter. Not only will the world be a nicer place, but also a brighter one, ha. Couldn’t resist the pun.

In all reality though, this precious imperfect gift we’ve been given is life. Life is measured in time, and our time is not promised. Tomorrow or an hour from now could be the last time we draw a breath. Are you going to leave behind a light or black hole? Not everything is going to be perfect or work out the way we planned. Yet we need to look at all we gained along the way. If we only measure our successes or happiness by material we are going to miss out on the important and more lasting forms of happiness. What we remember the most are the experiences and emotions we share with those around us. It isn’t that we spent 5 nights in a 5 star hotel; it’s that we spent 5 nights on a beautiful beach with the ones we love. We remember the light that others shown on us through the years. There is a quote, “Life isn’t measured by the breaths you take, but the moments that take your breath away.” That is true, and material items won’t take our breath away. For most of us the moments that will take our breaths are memories connected by an emotion. Hearing your baby’s heart beat for the first time, your wedding day, getting that call that you will never see a dear friend again, all huge moments that we remember. We don’t remember them because we got the call on the newest iphone or because our wedding cost 20 thousand dollars. No, we remember these moments for the feelings that hit us as we went through them. We should be inspired daily by major events like these or even the little moments where we find a perfect flower on a stroll. We need to live for today.

There are going to be times we struggle and are down. We will look around for that light, something to reach out for, or to guide us back into the positive. We will not always be able to find it. In those moments you have a choice. You can be like the stars that have died and burned themselves out into a black hole, or you can choose to fight. Create that spark, just a flicker of light. You have to work to protect the slight flame and let it grow. There will be obstacles on the way, so many events and people that will try to extinguish the flame you are guarding. You cannot give in though, you have to be the light you are looking for. You have to fight with every ounce of energy you have left to keep being that light. You never know there may be other lost dark souls and you are the only light they have to look to. When your night is the darkest, be your own light.

We need to remember that everything is truly amazing. Even the bad moments, we encounter such unbelievable circumstances for many of the worst moments we endure. Think about how far mankind has come in just a short timeframe. Amazing unbelievable moments and accomplishments are happening around us all the time. We need to embrace the awesome that is life, and enjoy the time we have been given. It’s not going to always be pretty and fun, but we have to remember the light we have the ability to shine for just not ourselves, but others. Let’s truly appreciate everything this life has to offer; the taste of chocolate, the stars at night, an old hoodie that reminds of the friends we had years ago. We have to soak in the little moments, the memories, the emotions, because we truly don’t have time to waste. Let your light shine bright, let it burn long, and let nothing extinguish the flame within you.

 

Remember, Be Your Own Light

Coty Myers

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